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YCQM: April 13, 2014

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>>> GOOD MORNING AND THANK FOR JOINING US FOR "YOU CAN QUOTE ME." I'M KEITH McGILVERY. THOUSANDS OF KIDS ACROSS VERMONT ARE WORKING WITH A MENTOR THAT THOUSANDS MORE COULD BENEFIT FROM A POSITIVE ADULT ROLE MODEL OUTSIDE THE HOME. FOR THE NEXT HALF HOUR, WE'LL EXPLORE WHAT IT TAKES TO BE A MEN TORE AND HOW THESE ADULTS ARE CHANGING LIVES. WE HAVE GREAT GUESTS WITH US IN THE STUDIO THIS MORNING, INCLUDING CHAD BUTT, THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF MOBIUS, VERMONT'S MENTORING PARTNERSHIP, AS WELL AS CHARLES HEMINGWAY AND HIS MENTOR JOHN GALLAGHER, BUT FIRST, WE BEGIN THIS MORNING WITH PART ONE OF OUR SERIES, MENTORING HOPE.

>> ORANGE IS CONTINENT, BLUE IS OCEAN.

>> THIS 9-YEAR-OLD IS EAGER TO SEE THE WORLD.

>> I WANT TO GO TO JAPAN BECAUSE THEY SPEAK A LOT OF DIFFERENT LANGUAGES THERE AND THEY HAVE THREE WAYS OF WRITING.

>> BUT THE FOURTH GRADER HASN'T ALWAYS LOPGD FOR A PASS PORT.

>> DURING COLLEGE, I WENT WAY OVER HERE TO PARIS.

>> SHE GOT THE TRAVEL BUG FROM 68-YEAR-OLD MARGARET CLARK JACKSON.

>> MY EXPERIENCES, THE FACT THAT I TRAVELED A LOT, MEANS THAT I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO TAKE HER IN A SORT OF WAY OUTSIDE OF SOUTH STARK BRO.

>> FOR THE LAST THREE AND A HALF YEARS, THESE TWO HAVE MADE QUITE A PAIR.

>> SHE'S A LIVELY, VERY, VERY BRIGHT LITTLE GIRL.

>> HOPE AND MARGARET MAKE UP ONE OF DOZENS OF MENTOR-MENTEE PARTNERSHIPS AT THE ROBINSON ELEMENTARY SCHOOL IN STARKSBORO. MARGARET SAW IT AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO TRY SOMETHING NEW.

>> I CAME HERE AT A TIME IN MY LIFE WHERE MY LIFE WAS SORT OF CLOSING DOWN, SHUTTING DOWN MORE THAN IT WAS OPENING UP.

>> AND HOPE JUMPED RIGHT IN.

>> YEAH, WE HAVE A TECH LAB HERE AND I TAUGHT HER THESE WEBSITES ABOUT MATH.

>> THE CHALLENGE TO MAKE MAGIC EXISTS ACROSS VERMONT. MENTORING GROUPS ESTIMATE THERE ARE ABOUT 2500 FORMAL PAIRINGS IN THE STATE, BUT ANOTHER 15,500 KIDS FACE BARRIERS TO SOCIAL AND ECONOMIC MOBILITY AND ARE IN STRONG NEED OF A MENTOR.

>> I HAVE 28 MENTORS, AND THAT MEANS THAT 28 HOURS A WEEK, A CHILD IS SPENDING WITH A SAFE, CARING ADULT WHO HAS UNCONDITIONAL REGARD FOR THAT CHILD.

>> JOHNSTON SAYS THE MIX OF TOWN DOLLARS, DONATIONS, AND GRANTS HELP COVER THE ROUGHLY $800 IT COSTS HER PER MATCH, FOR THINGS LIKE BACKGROUND CHECKS, ACTIVITIES, AND SUPPLIES. LIMITED FINANCES AND A LACK OF MENTORS MEAN THE EFFORT CAN ONLY GO SO FAR.

>> I WISH THAT ALL 155 OF OUR STUDENTS HERE HAD MENTORS BECAUSE I SEE THE LIGHT IN A CHILD'S EYES THE DAY THEIR MENTOR COMES TO VISIT THEM, AND I HEAR THE STORIES THAT THEY TELL ABOUT THE EXPERIENCES THEY'VE HAD.

>> I WOULD SAY MARGARET, I'M REALLY THANKFUL THAT I HAVE YOU AS A MENTOR BECAUSE YOU'RE THE MOST AMAZING PERSON I HAVE EVER MET IN MY LIFE.

>> WE'LL HEAR MORE FROM MARGARET AND HOPE IN JUST A LITTLE BIT, BUT OUR FIRST GUEST THIS MORNING, CHAD BUTT, THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF MOBIUS, VERMONT'S MENTORING PARTNERSHIP. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING HERE, CHAD.

>> THANKS FOR HAVING ME.

>> FOLKS AT HOME MAY NOT BE FAMILIAR WITH YOUR ORGANIZATION. TELL US ABOUT MOBIUS.

>> THE PAST TEN YEARS, WE'VE BEEN A CHITTENDEN COUNTY BASED ORGANIZATION SUPPORTING MENTORING, AND THIS PAST YEAR, 2013, EXPANDED TO BE A STATEWIDE MENTORING PARTNERSHIP, SO WORKING WITH MENTORING PROGRAMS THROUGHOUT THE STATE TO HELP THEM INCREASE THEIR MATCHES, IMPROVE THEIR PROGRAMS, AND ACCOMPLISH THE STATEWIDE INITIATIVES AROUND MENTORING.

>> AND HOW ARE WE DOING THAT? A NUMBER OF DIFFERENT WAYS?

>> DEFINITELY. YEAH, MOBIUS IS OUT THERE, WE SUPPORT MENTORING PROGRAMS THROUGH TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE, PROVIDE THEM TOOLS LIKE A STATEWIDE DIRECTORY ON OUR WEBSITE, SO POTENTIAL MENTORS AND MENTEES CAN FIND A PROGRAM IN THEIR AREA THROUGH A DATA MANAGEMENT TOOL. WE ALSO FUND PROGRAMS. WE GET FUNDING FROM THE STATE OF VERMONT THROUGH THE HENDERSON FOUNDATION AND THE PERMANENT FUND TO WE GRANT OUT TO VERMONT MENTORING PROGRAMS, AND THEN WE ALSO PROVIDE PUBLIC AWARENESS, WORKING THROUGH THINGS LIKE THIS TO MAKE SURE PEOPLE ARE AWARE OF MENTORING THROUGHOUT THE STATE.

>> AND I KNOW IT WAS A REALLY BIG STEP FOR YOU FOLKS DECIDING TO TAKE ON A STATEWIDE EFFORT. WHY WAS THAT SO KEY?

>> IT REALLY WAS A REQUEST FROM THE PROGRAMS. THERE'S ABOUT 100 MENTORING PROGRAM SITES THROUGHOUT THE STATE AND THEY REALLY WANTED TO HAVE SOMETHING COME TOGETHER TO HELP CONNECT THEM, HELP PUSH TO ADVOCATE FOR MORE FUNDING, AND REALLY BRING ALL THE PROGRAMS TOGETHER IN ONE ENTITY.

>> SO WE SAW THE PROGRAM THERE IN STARKSBORO AND I KNOW YOU FOLKS PLAYED A ROLE IN THAT. HOW DO YOU HELP OUT IN A SCHOOL LIKE THAT?

>> DEFINITELY, THAT SCHOOL DISTRICT, THEY ARE ACTUALLY LOOKING TO COMPLETE A PICTURE THAT WE'RE WORKING AROUND THE STATE TO HAVE YOUTH THAT JOIN THE PROGRAM AS EARLY AS KINDERGARTEN, BE SMENTED WITH MENTORING -- SUPPORTED WITH MENTORING MATCHES THROUGH HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION, SO THAT'S INDEPENDENT SUPERVISORY UNION IS WORKING TO COMPLETE THE PICTURE BY PEOPLE IN ROBINSON ELEMENTARY AND NOW CONTINUING ON TO MIDDLE SCHOOL AND HIGH SCHOOL AND HOPEFULLY THAT MATCH CONTINUES ON ONCE HOPE GRADUATES FROM ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, SO WE WORK WITH THEM TO MAKE THAT HAPPEN, PROVIDING FUNDING TO THOSE PROGRAMS.

>> I KNOW THAT WAS IMPORTANT FOR A LOT OF FOLKS A LOT OF KYS, HOPE'S -- KIDS, HOPE'S MOM TOLD ME, WHAT'S GOING TO HAPPEN WITH ME NEXT? MOVING INTO HIGH SCHOOL, WHY IS THAT SO IMPORTANT?

>> IT'S A TRICKY NIME ANY KIDES LIFE AND REGARDLESS OF WHAT'S GOING ON IN YOUR HOME, HAVING THE CONSISTENT RELATIONSHIP WITH THE MENTOR, YOU CAN RELY ON MEETING WITH ONCE A WEEK TO TALK ABOUT, WORK THROUGH ISSUES AND JUST HAVE SOMEBODY THAT YOU KNOW CARES ABOUT YOU. IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT.

>> WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT MENTORING REALLY ALL WEEK HERE ON CHANNEL 3 AND WE SHARED SOME STATISTICS IN THAT FIRST PIECE THAT I THINK REALLY SURPRISED A LOT OF FOLKS. 2500 MATCHES OR SO AROUND THE STATE, BUT YOU FOLKS ESTIMATE 15,500 AT LEAST ADDITIONAL KIDS COULD BENEFIT. WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT?

>> WELL, THAT'S LOOKING AT THE RECENT RESEARCH DONE BY MENTOR, THE NATIONAL MENTOR PARTNERSHIP THAT WE'RE A STATEWIDE AFFILIATE OF, RECENTLY CAME OUT WITH A STUDY REALIZING THAT ONE OUT OF THREE YOUTH THROUGHOUT AMERICA IS GOING TO GO THROUGH CHILDHOOD WITHOUT A MENTOR, EITHER A FORMAL RELATIONSHIP LIKE THE ONE YOU SAW OR INFORMAL MENTOR, A COACH THAT THEY SORT OF PICK THEMSELVES. SO LOOKING AT THE POPULATION IN VERMONT AND LOOKING AT THE YOUTH IN VERMONT THAT FACE SOME TYPE OF RISK FACTOR, YOU'RE ABLE TO EXTRAPOLATE OUT TO SEE THERE'S AT LEAST 15,000 YOUTH ON THE THERE THAT REALLY COULD USE MENTORING THAT AREN'T REFERRING IT, A MENTORING RELATIONSHIP CURRENTLY.

>> AND WE DESCRIBED SOME OF THOSE YOUNG PEOPLE AS AT-RISK, KIND OF -- WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?

>> THEY MAY HAVE REGULAR ABSENTEEISM, STRUGGLING IN SCHOOL, HAVE BEHAVIORAL ISSUES, BUT REALLY A THING THAT EVERY CHILD CAN BENEFIT FROM MENTORING AND DIFFERENT TYPES OF CHILDREN IN EVERY MENTORING PROGRAM OUT THERE AND JUST HAVING THE ADULT IN THE CHILD'S LIFE IS KEY.

>> WHERE DO YOU THINK SOME OF THESE KIDS ARE WITHOUT THAT RESOURCE? WE'RE MEETING GREAT FOLKS TODAY WITH SOLID MEN STORES IN THEIR LIVES, BUT IT'S NOT THE CASE FOR EVERYONE.

>> YOU CAN SEE THE DIFFERENCE WITH YOUTH THAT HAVE MENTORING RELATIONSHIPS AND OTHER YOUTH THAT MAY GO DOWN A DIFFERENT PATH THAT THEY HAVE ONE ADULT IN THEIR LIFE THAT THEY CAN TURN TO REGARDLESS OF WHAT'S GOING ON CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE.

>> AND TALK TO ME ABOUT THE ADULTS INVOLVED IN THE EFFORT.

>> ANYBODY CAN BE A MENTOR, IT'S REALLY BEING JOORZ AND BE CONSISTENT AND -- YOURSELF AND BE CONSISTENT AND SHOW UP AND BE THERE FOR THE CHILD. IT'S EASIER THAN YOU THINK IT IS. I ACTUALLY AM A MENTOR, I'VE BEEN MENTORING A YOUNG MAN, NOW HE'S 22, FOR THE LAST SIX OR SEVEN YEARS, AND IT EVOLVES AS YOU GET TO KNOW THEM, BUT THE MENTOR PROGRAMS OUT THERE, THERE'S COORDINATORS THAT SUPPORT YOU, OFFER YOU THE TRAINING YOU NEED SO WHEN YOU START, YOU'RE NOT LEFT OUT HIGH AND DRY. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU MIGHT DO WITH THAT CHILD ON THE FIRST DAY, BUT THE KIDS REALLY JUST ARE ANXIOUS TO HAVE ANOTHER PERSON IN THEIR LIFE AND THEY'RE GOING TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ON A WEEKLY BASIS.

>> WE SAW IN THAT PIECE, THE ROBINSON ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, SCHOOLS ACROSS VERMONT, COMMUNITIES ACROSS VERMONT OFTEN STRAPPED FOR CAR, TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW -- FOR CASH, TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO MORE WITH LESS. THAT COMMUNITY HAS DECIDED TO MAKE THIS A PRIORITY. HOW DO YOU MAKE IT WORK? DIFFERENT COMMUNITIES HAVE DIFFERENT RESOURCES?

>> WELL, IN TERMS OF JUST DIFFERENT TYPES OF MENTORING PROGRAMS, THERE'S SCHOOL-BASED PROGRAMS AND COMMUNITY-BASED PROGRAMS AND THOSE -- THE ADULT-TO-YOUTH ONES ARE THE ONES WE TRIEF TO SUPPORT AT MOBIUS. THERE'S OTHER PROGRAMS OUT THERE THAT ARE ADULT TO-TO-ADULT PROGRAMS, PEER MENTORING PROGRAMS, AND EACH GOES ABOUT IT A DIFFERENT WAY, BUT THERE'S FUNDING THAT COMES THROUGH TOWNS, THROUGH THE TOWN BUDGET, THROUGH SCHOOLS, A LOT OF GRANTS OUT THERE, BUT ALSO JUST PRIVATE DONORS AND PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY REALIZING THAT MENTORING MAKES A DIFFERENCE IN TAKING A STAKE IN WHAT'S GOING ON IN THEIR COMMUNITY AND DOUGH NATING IT TO THE PROGRAMS.

>> SCHAD, WE'RE GOING TO TAKE A QUICK BREAK. WE HAVE A LOT MORE COMING UP. IF YOU HAVE PICTURES YOU WANT TO SHARE WITH US ON FACEBOOK OR TWITTER A MENTOR, SOMEONE WHO'S MADE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE, GO AHEAD AND SHARE THEM WITH US OUR FACEBOOK PAGE. AFTER THE BREAK, PART TWO OF OUR SERIES, MENTORING HOPE, PLUS WE'LL MEET A GREAT this morning on "You

>>> WELCOME BACK AND THANKS FOR JOINING US. ALL THIS MORNING ON "YOU CAN QUOTE ME," WE'RE LOOKING AT THE POWER OF MENTORISM IN VERMONT. WE START THE SECOND HALF OF SHOW WITH PART TWO OF OUR SERIES, MENTORING HOPE. WE INTRODUCE YOU TO 9-YEAR-OLD HOPE AND HER MENTOR MARGARET. FOR YOU HER MOM SHARES WITH US WHY IT WAS IMPORTANT TO HAVE A MENTOR FOR HOPE AND HOW SHE KNOWS THE PARTNERSHIP IS PAYING OFF.

>> YOU MIGHT NEED A LITTLE MORE SALAD.

>> THAT'S ENOUGH.

>> IN THE FAMILY'S KITCHEN, EVERYONE STAYS BUSY.

>> IT'S FAMILY TIME. YOU KNOW, YOU GET TO SPEND SOME TIME WITH YOUR KIDS.

>> ONCE A MONTH, BRENDA AND HER KIDS ROLL UP SHARE SLEEVES.

>> I'VE LEARNED HOW TO CUT, HOW TO DICE, HOW TO COOK MEAT.

>> AND MAKE MEALS FOR DOZENS OF NEEDY SENIORS IN STARKSBORO.

>> IF WE DON'T DO FOR OTHERS, THEN WHERE ARE WE GOING TO BE?

>> FOR THIS FULL-TIME WORKING MOM, IT'S ONE WAY SHE CAN TEACH HER 9-YEAR-OLD HOPE ABOUT THE WORLD AROUND HERK BUT SHE KNEW THAT EXPOSING HER ON LIFE AND EXPERIENCES BEYOND THEIR HOME WOULD TAKE HELP.

>> I THOUGHT HOPE NEEDED A MENTOR TO BE ABLE TO SEE A WORLD THROUGH SOMEBODY -- THROUGH DIFFERENT EYES THAN MINE.

>> THAT'S WHY THE FOURTH GRADER HAS BEEN PAIRED WITH HER ROBINSON ELEMENTARY SCHOOL MENTOR, MARGARET CLARK JACKSON, SINCE THE FIRST GRADE.

>> SHE'S QUITE A GENIUS WITH PEOPLE.

>> THEY'RE ONE OF 28 MATCHES AT THE SCHOOL WHERE KIDS FROM CHALLENGING FAMILY AND SOCIOECONOMIC BACKGROUNDS ARE PICKED FIRST FOR THE PROGRAM. TOGETHER, THEY SPEND UP TO SIX HOURS A WEEK EXPLORING COMMON INTERESTS --

>> ONE TIME SHE BEAT ME AT THIS GAME AND I WAS LIKE, DARN IT, I MOSTLY BEAT YOU.

>> AND TRYING NEW THINGS.

>> SHE PUT ANOTHER ONE OVER IT JUST LIKE THAT.

>> WHILE THE MENTORS WORK FREE OF CHARGE, THE ADDISON NORTHEAST SUPERVISORY UNION SPENDS TENS OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS A YEAR IN DONATIONS, GRANTS, AND TAXES TO SUPPORT THE PROGRAM. WITH A SIMPLE GOAL.

>> THEIR ROLE IS TO SIMPLY BE THERE AND TO SHOW UP AND TO BE A CONSISTENT, CARING AND SAFE PRESENCE IN A CHILD'S LIFE.

>> THERE'S ANOTHER PERSON WHO CARES ABOUT HER, WHO LISTENS TO HER.

>> BY THE TIME WHEN SCHOOL BUDGETS ARE TIGHT AND MANY ARE BEING ASKED TO DO MORE WITH LESS, HOW DO WE KNOW ALL THIS TIME TOGETHER AND GOOD WILL ARE PAYING OFF?

>> MENTORS MAKE A TREMENDOUS DIFFERENCE IN THE LIFE OF A CHILD.

>> GUIDANCE COUNSELOR AND MENTOR PROGRAM COORDINATOR AMY JOHNSTON.

>> WHAT WE SEE IN THE BENEFITS OF MENTORING ARE THAT CHILDREN GROW SOCIALLY, ACADEMICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, UNDER THAT CARING RELATIONSHIP.

>> STATISTICS FOR MENTORING ORGANIZATIONS, BIG BROTHERS BIG SISTERS OF AMERICA, AND THE NATIONAL MENTORING PARTNERSHIP, SHOW KIDS WITH A MENTOR ARE 46% LESS LIKELY TO BEGIN USING ILLEGAL DRUGS, 27% LESS LIKELY TO BEGIN DRINKING ALCOHOL, 52% LESS LIKELY TO SKIP A DAY OF SCHOOL, AND 32% LESS LIKELY TO ENGAGE IN PHYSICAL VIOLENCE. HOPE AND BRENDA SAY MARGARET HAS BEEN A PERFECT FIT.

>> I THINK I'M MORE WORLDLY BECAUSE SHE'S TAUGHT ME ABOUT THE WORLD AND, LIKE, SHE'S BEEN TO A LOT OF DIFFERENT PLACES.

>> SHE'S FAR MORE MATURE THAN A LOT OF CHILDREN HER AGE AND I SEE A BIG DIFFERENCE WHEN SHE WAS IN THE FIRST GRADE TO NOW AND A LOT OF THAT IS BEING WITH MARGARET.

>> WELL, HOPE IS JUST A WONDERFUL LITTLE GIRL. I THINK SHE'S GOING TO BE GUNNING AFTER MY JOB ONE DAY, BUT IT WAS WONDERFUL TO SPEND SOMETIME WITH HER. BACK AT THE ROUNDTABLE, CHAD BUTT FROM MOBIUS IS HERE WITH US AND WE'RE WELCOMING NEW GUESTS AS WELL. CHARLES HEMINGWAY IS THE CENTER FOR TECHNICAL ETHICS.

>> IT'S SOMEWHERE WHERE KIDS CAN GO TO GET A DIFFERENT FEEL FOR OUR PROGRAM THAT THEY THINK THEY WOULD WANT TO GO TO, LIKE AUTO BODY OR PROFESSIONAL FOODS OR COSMETOLOGY.

>> SURE, I'VE BEEN TO THEM AS OUR EDUCATION REPORTER, AND YOUR MENTOR JOHN GALLAGHER.

>> THAT'S RIGHT.

>> GREAT TO HAVE YOU. WE'RE GOING TO START WITH YOU, CHRLS. YOU AND JOHN HAVE BEEN PAIRED TOGETHER FOR QUITE SOME TIME. WHAT DO YOU LIKE ABOUT HAVING A MENTOR?

>> I LIKE KNOW THAT THERE'S SOMEONE I CAN ALWAYS GO TO IF I'M HAVING PROBLEMS WITH HOMEWORK OR ANYTHING TO DO WITH MY HOUSE OR THERE'S SOMEBODY THAT'S A REAL FRIEND.

>> OKAY. AND NOI -- HOW OLD WERE YOU WHEN YOU GUYS STARTED TOGETHER? I KNOW IT'S BEEN QUITE SOME TIME.

>> I THINK 9, MAYBE 10.

>> AND FOR FOLKS AT HOME WHO MAY NOT HAVE A MENTOR OR KNOW SOMEONE WITH A MENTOR, DESCRIBE FOR ME SOME OF THE THINGS YOU TWO DO TOGETHER.

>> WE DO LITERALLY EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING. WE GO TO A BASEBALL GAME ONE DAY OR GO TO A FERRY RIDE TO ESSEX, NEW YORK.

>> SO YOU GUYS GET AROUND ALL OVER THE PLACE. JOHN, TALK TO ME ABOUT THIS. YOU FOLKS HAVE BEEN PAIRED TOGETHER FOR EIGHT YEARS, GIVE OR THAT. WHY DID YOU GET INVOLVED?

>> I ACTUALLY GOT INVOLVED ABOUT 15 YEARS AGO WITH A BOY I'M STILL FRIENDS WITH TODAY, HE'S 29. ONCE HE WENT OFF TO COLLEGE, I FELT LIKE I HAD THE COLLEGE TO GET INVOLVED AGAIN AND I WAS LOOKING FOR A -- INITIALLY A WAY TO BE INVOLVED IN MY COMMUNITY, AND THIS SEEMED LIKE THE BEST WAY FOR ME TO DO IT, SPEND TIME WITH SOMEONE WHOSE FATHER WASN'T PRESENT AND DO WHAT I COULD TO HELP OUT.

>> AND WHAT TYPES OF THINGS DO YOU ENJOY DOING TOGETHER? I ASSUME MAYBE CHARLES LIKES SOME OF THE ACTIVITIES MORE THAN YOU, IT'S A GIVE AND TAKE AND YOU PICK AND CHOOSE?

>> THERE'S A LOT OF THINGS WE ENJOY DOING AND I THINK ONE OF THEM IS WHAT WE'RE DOING RIGHT NOW. WE LIKE TO TALK ABOUT THE MENTORING PROGRAM WE'RE INVOLVED IN. WE LIKE TO BE INVOLVED WITH OUR MENTORING PROGRAM COMMUNITY FRIENDS, HELPING OUT AT EVENTS, AND, YOU KNOW, PROMOTING WHAT FOLKS REALLY BELIEVE -- WE BOTH REALLY BELIEVE IN, WHICH IS MENTORING. ASIDE FROM THAT, YOU KNOW, HIKES. AFTER WE LEAVE HERE, WE'RE GOING TO SEE IF THE ICE IS OUT ON THE RIVER BECAUSE WE WANT TO PUT THE CANOE IN.

>> DON'T GO UNDER, OTHERWISE THEY'RE GOING TO CALL US AND SEND US OUT THERE. TALK TO ME HOW YOU SEE CHARLES GROWING AND EVOLVING. HE WAS A LITTLE BOY WHEN YOU STARTED AND NOW HE'S A YOUNG MAN.

>> HE'S A BIG FELLOW NOW AND I USED TO BE ABLE TO ROUGHHOUSE WITH HIM. I PRETTY MUCH SHY AWAY FROM THAT NOW, BUT CHARLES HAS ALWAYS BEEN A VERY EASY-GOING GUY AND I THINK VERY COMFORTABLE IN HIS OWN SKIN. I REALLY THINK YOU HAVE BEEN AND STILL ARE. I THINK HE'S BECOME A REALLY CONFIDENT AND CAPABLE GUY. THAT'S A GREAT THING TO SEE.

>> WHAT TYPES OF QUALITIES HAVE YOU TRIED TO INSTILL IN HIM?

>> WELL, YOU KNOW, I DO TRY TO COACH CHARLES AND, YOU KNOW, BEING POLITE, BEING RESPECTFUL, BEING THOUGHTFUL, BEING INVOLVED IN COMMUNITY EVENTS, REACHING BEYOND YOUR WORLD INTO OTHER WORLDS AND TRYING TO HAVE A BIGGER IMPACT.

>> MAYBE TO THAT POINT, CHARLES, WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED FROM JOHN?

>> JUST NOT TO BE AFRAID AND TO DO SOMETHING YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH. ACTUALLY, MY SOPHOMORE YEAR, MY COUSIN'S MOM WANTED ME TO START WRESTLING AND I TALKED TO JOHN ABOUT IT AND HE KIND OF STARTED PUSHING IT, AND PUSHING IT, AND HE GOT ME TO START IT AND I REALIZED THAT IT WAS ACTUALLY A GREAT TIME.

>> OKAY, I WON'T MESS WITH YOU. WHAT DO YOU HOPE JOHN HAS LEARNED FROM YOU?

>> I JUST -- THERE'S NOT MUCH HE COULD LEARN. LIKE HE SAID, HE HAD A PAST MENTEE. HIS DAUGHTER JUST ACTUALLY WENT OFF TO COLLEGE, I BELIEVE, RIGHT?

>> MM-HMM.

>> AND SO --

>> THAT'S TRUE.

>> I DON'T KNOW NECESSARILY BUY, JOHN THAT, YOU HAVEN'T LEARNED ANYTHING FROM CHARLES. TALK TO ME ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVE TAKEN AWAY FROM THIS YOUNG MAN.

>> SOMETIMES I WONDER WHO THE ADULT IN THE RELATIONSHIP IS. I HAVE A FUN TIME HORSING AROUND WITH CHARLES AND IT JUST ALLOWS ME TO BE A KID FOR A LITTLE BIT AND DO FUN, GOOFY STUFF AND I JUST LEARNED HOW TO BE MORE PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING AND, YOU KNOW, COMPASSIONATE AND JUST TRYING TO HELP YOU ALONG YOUR WAY. AND, YOU KNOW, THAT'S WHAT I'VE GOTTEN FROM YOU.

>> JOHN, YOU HAVE A FULL-TIME JOB, SO YOU'RE WORKING. FOLKS AT HOME ARE WATCHING, SAYING, YOU KNOW, I DON'T KNOW IF I HAVE THE TIME, I DON'T KNOW IF I HAVE THE RESOURCES. HOW HAS THIS KIND OF FOLDED ITSELF INTO YOUR REGULAR ROUTINE FOR REALLY YEARS NOW?

>> YEAH, I'VE MADE IT PRETTY CLEAR IN BOTH MENTORING PROGRAMS THAT I'VE BEEN IN, THAT I CAN'T DO IN-SCHOOL MENTORING BECAUSE I WORK FIVE DAYS A WEEK, SO I CAN GET TOGETHER ON WEEKENDS. AND IT'S WORKED OUT FOR ME AND MAYBE EVERY OTHER WEEKEND FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS. I TRY TO GET TOGETHER WITH CHARLES. AND IT'S WORKED PERFECTLY WITH MY SCHEDULE. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I TRAVEL ON THE WAY FOR SEVERAL WEEKENDS IN A ROW AND WE JUST STAY IN TOUCH THROUGH FACEBOOK OR PHONE CALLS.

>> YOU RECORD YOUR TIME TOGETHER?

>> I DO. I DON'T GET OUT OF MY HOUSE VERY MUCH, SO THE TIME I GET TO SPEND WITH JOHN, WHETHER IT'S GOING ON A LIKE OR SEEING A NEW MOVIE THAT JUST CAME OUT, IT'S NICE TO GET OUT OF MY HOUSE.

>> CHAD, YOU'RE WORKING WITH GROUPS ALL OVER THE STATE, 2500 FORMAL PAIRINGS WE'VE TALKED ABOUT. TALK TO ME ABOUT WHAT YOU SEE IN THIS GROUP THAT REALLY IMPRESSES YOU.

>> I MEAN, I JUST -- THE ABILITY FOR A MENTOR TO TAKE TIME OUT OF THEIR LIVES AND SPEND IT WITH A MENTEE AND JUST THE AMOUNT THAT BOTH SIDES GET FROM THE RELATIONSHIP IS JUST AMAZING TO SEE AND YOU SEE IT HERE. IT'S A REALLY GREAT EXPERIENCE FOR A MENTOR AND EQUALLY IS A GREAT FOR THE MENTEE AS WELL.

>> SO KIND OF, FOR THESE TWO, I SUSPECT IT'S KIND OF JUST A NATURAL PART OF THEIR EVERYDAY ROUTINE, BUT SOMEONE WHO'S KIND OF OBSERVING, YOU KNOW, FROM UP ABOVE ON WHAT'S TAKEN PLACE HERE, WHY HAS THIS BEEN SO IMPORTANT? WHAT DO YOU THINK THE MAGIC IS HERE?

>> WHEN YOU HAVE SOMEONE WHO'S JUST EXCITED ABOUT MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN SOMEONE'S LIFE AND A YOUNG PERSON THAT'S OPEN TO ACCEPTING SOMEONE ELSE INTO THEIR LIFE, SOME MENTEES AREN'T RIGHT AWAY AND IT TAKES THAT TIME TO BUILD THAT TRUST, BUT THAT CONSISTENCY JUST NATURALLY CAUSES PEOPLE TO COME TOGETHER AND I THINK THAT'S -- YOU SEE HERE, THERE'S REALLY PROGRAMS OUT THERE FOR EVERY MENTOR. ANYBODY THAT WANTS TO BE A MENTOR, THERE'S A WAY TO FIT INTO JUROR SCHEDULE. IF YOU GET YOUR LUNCH TIMES OFF AND YOU CAN MENTOR IN A SCHOOL DURING LUNCHTIME, THERE'S PROGRAMS OUT THERE FOR THAT. IF YOU NEED TO DO IT ON THE WEEKENDS, THERE'S A WAY TO MAKE IT WORK. IT'S A MATTER OF TAKING THE NEXT STEP.

>> I KNOW WHEN WE VISITED THE SCHOOL IN STARKSBORO, I WAS SOMEWHAT HARD-PRESSED TO FIND MALE MENTORS. THERE'S A MALE PARTNERSHIP HERE AND IT'S CLEARLY WORKING HERE, BUT TALK TO ME ABOUT THAT NEED.

>> IT'S DEFINITELY -- I'D SAY PROBABLY ONE-THIRD OF THE MENTORING MATCHES OUT THERE ARE MALE MENTORS. IT'S PREDOMINANTLY FEMALE. SO THERE'S A HIGH NEED TO MALE MENTORS AND SOMETIMES IT TAKES EXTRA NUDGING TO GET A MALE MENTOR OUT THERE.

>> WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS?

>> WELL, IT'S REALLY A MENTOR RECRUITING ANOTHER MENTOR, SO THE HOPE IS THAT THE MORE MALE MENTORS THAT GET INVOLVED, IT WILL SNOWBALL INTO MORE MALES THAT SIGN UP TO DO IT. I THINK IT'S SOMETIMES NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO DO WITH THE MENTEE. SOME GUYS OUT THERE ARE JUST A LITTLE BIT HESITANT THERE, BUT IT NATURALLY HAPPENS ONCE YOU GET INTO IT.

>> SO I HAVE NO HAND-EYE COORDINATION, AND BASKETBALL IS NOT MY THING, BUT WE CAN WORK AROUND IT.

>> IT MIGHT BE THE GREAT THING.

>> CHARLES CAN TEACH ME.

>> THE MENTEE CAN TEACH YOU, THEY CAN BEAT YOU AT SOMETHING AND THEY FEEL THEY TAUGHT THEIR MENTOR SOMETHING.

>> AND THE FACT THAT IT IS A MALE AND NOT A FEMALE WORKING WITH A YOUNG MAN, YOU KNOW, THERE'S A DIFFERENCE THERE?

>> I MEAN -- IT CAN BE. IT CAN WORK EITHER WAY. DIFFERENT PROGRAMS, DIFFERENT PROTOCOLS IN TERMS OF MATCHING FEMALE MENTORS TO MALE MEN TEASE. AS A YOUNG BOY GROWING UP STO, ME, I DEFINITELY LIKED HAVING A MALE ROLE MODEL IN MY LIFE. SEEMED LIKE YOU LIKE IT AS WELL. SO I THINK THAT AS YOUTH GET OUT OF ELEMENTARY SCHOOL AND THEY GET INTO MIDDLE SCHOOL AND GET INTO HIGH SCHOOL, JUST HAVING ANOTHER MALE ROLE MODEL THERE FOR YOU IS DEFINITELY A HUGE PART.

>> AND CHARLES, I KNOW YOU'VE STEPPED UP TO THE PLATE AND NOW YOU'RE WORKING WITH A YOUNG INDIVIDUAL AS WELL. TELL US ABOUT THAT.

>> I TRY TO DO AS MUCH AS I CAN IN MY OWN COMMUNITY AND MY MIDDLE SCHOOL. NEXT YEAR, I'M GOING BACK TO CVU AND THERE'S THIS BUDDY PROGRAM.

>> SURE.

>> AND THEY SEND YOU TO THE MIDDLE SCHOOL JUST TO HANG OUT WITH ONE OF THE YOUNGER KIDS THERE.

>> AND WHY DO YOU THINK THAT'S IMPORTANT FOR YOU?

>> WELL, WHEN I WAS YOUNGER BEFORE I MET JOHN IN SECOND GRADE, I HAD A BUDDY MYSELF, SECOND AND THIRD GRADE, AND I REALLY ENJOYED BEING ABLE TO GET OUT OF CLASS --

>> DIDN'T WE ALL.

>> AND THE FACT I HAD SOMEBODY THERE THAT I COULD TALK TO AND JUST -- I FEEL THAT THERE ARE KIDS AND I KNOW THERE ARE YOUNGER KIDS THERE AND SOME OF THEM DON'T HAVE VERY MANY THEY CAN TALK TO.

>> JOHN, WE'VE LEARNED THAT THE DEMAND FOR MEN TORS FAR OUT WEIGHS MEN OR WOMEN SIGNING UP TO HELP. SOMEONE AT HOME WATCHING ON SUNDAY MORNING, WHAT DO YOU SAY TO THEM IF THEY HAVE RESERVATIONS ABOUT GETTING ON BOARD?

>> I THINK ANYONE SHOULD GIVE IT A TRY. CONTACT THEIR LOCAL MENTORING PROGRAM, MOBIUS PERHAPS, FIND OUT WHAT MENTORING PROGRAM IS IN YOUR COMMUNITY, AND PARTICIPATE IN A TRAINING SESSION. YOU GET TO SEE WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT, TALK TO A COORDINATOR, MAYBE TALK TO SOME OTHER MENTORS AND START THE PROCESS AND SEE HOW IT FEELS AS YOU GO ALONG. THERE'S NO COMMITMENT TO START, TO TALK ABOUT IT. YOU CAN DECIDE IF IT DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT, YOU DON'T HAVE TO PROCEED, BUT IT'S JUST TO GET IN THE DOOR AND SEE WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT ON THAT LEVEL.

>> AND TO FOLKS WHO MIGHT SAY, YEAH, I HAVE THE TIME, BUT I MAY NOT HAVE THE FINANCIAL RESOURCES, HAS THERE BEEN A BURDEN?

>> NO, NO, THERE'S ALWAYS THINGS YOU CAN DO. THERE'S HIKES YOU CAN TAKE. WHEN CHARLES AND I FIRST GOT TOGETHER, WE WOULD GO DOWN TO THE LOCAL LIBRARY AND WE'D PLAY GAMES IN THE ROOM. OFF THE SIDE OF THE LIBRARY. YOU CAN ALWAYS FIND THINGS TO DO THAT DON'T COST ANY MONEY.

>> YOU AGREE WITH THAT, CHARLES?

>> YES, AND ACTUALLY THE VERY FIRST THING WE DID -- WELL NOT THE FIRST THING. WE WENT TO THE LIBRARY, BUT THE FIRST THING WE DID WHEN IT WAS NICE OUT, WE HIKED MOUNT SILO AND HE PACKED HOT COCO AND A FEW PEANUT BUTTER AND JEMLY SANDWICHES AND WE JUST SAT OUT THERE.

>> WHO GOT TO THE TOP FIRST?

>> WE BOTH MADE IT UP THERE ABOUT THE SAME TIME STOO WE'RE DOING IT AGAIN THIS SATURDAY.

>> EVEN THE FACT THAT CHARLES CAN VIVIDLY REMEMBER THAT STORY SAYS THAT THESE PAIRINGS ARE PAYING OFF.

>> DEFINITELY, IT MAKES A HUGE DIFFERENCE AND AFFECTS HOW A CHILD GROWS UP. BACK TO THE THINGS YOU CAN DO FOR FREE, THERE'S GREAT COMMUNITY PARTNERS OUT THERE. THERE'S MOVIE STHEERTTHEATERS, RESTAURANTS, DIFFERENT PARTNERS THAT PROVIDE DISCOUNTS TO MENTORS THROUGH MOBIUS. YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE MONEY TO SPEND TO DO IT.

>> CHARLES, TALK TO US ABOUT WHAT JOHN HAS MEANT TO YOU.

>> JOHN HAS BEEN MY FATHER FIGURE FOR YEARS NOW AND IT'S JUST NICE TO KNOW THAT THERE'S SOMEBODY THAT I CAN ALWAYS GO TO, WHETHER I NEED HELP WITH MY HOMEWORK, MY LATEST GEOMETRY ASSIGN MMENT ASSIGNMENT, WHICH HAPPENS TO BE MY FIRST SUBJECT.

>> CAN YOU HELP ME WITH GRAMMAR?

>> I CAN'T HELP YOU WITH GEOMETRY, CHARLES.

>> JOHN, JOKING ASIDE, WHAT'S IT LIKE FOR YOU TO HEAR THAT?

>> IT IT'S GREAT. IT MAKES ME FEEL ABOUT WHAT I'VE DONE AND WHAT WE'VE DONE TOGETHER OVER THE YEARS. CHARLES HAS BECOME ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS. HE MAY NOT KNOW IT, BUT HE IS. I SEE HIM EVERY DAY CATCHING A BUS.

>> BEFORE WE GO, FOLKS AT HOME WATCHING, HOW CAN THEY GET INVOLVED?

>> GO TO THE MOBIUS WEBSITE, MOBIUSMENTORS.ORG AND THERE'S AN EASY WAY TO FIND A PROGRAM NEAR YOU.

>> WONDERFUL. WELL, ALL THREE OF YOU, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING HERE TODAY. YOU'RE DOING WONDERFUL WORK. WE APPRECIATE ALL OF YOU JOINING THIS MORNING ON "YOU CAN QUOTE ME." MAKE IT A GREAT SUNDAY AND I'LL SEE YOU BACK HERE MONDAY NIGHT AT 11:00 ON THE CHANNEL 3 NEWS. HAVE A GREAT DAY. CAPTIONING PROVIDED BY.CAPTION ASSOCIATES, LLCwww.captionassociates.com

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